I've seeked council from a few of my Christian girl friends in regards to the issues swirling constantly in my head about being "ready" for marriage, waiting for my significant other to feel like he's "ready" to be a leader to a wife and family and just how long am I supposed to wait?
I am thankful for all the love, knowledge, support and prayer while I've been deciphering this all out with God. It's encouraged me to look deeper into what God's will is for Rylan and I. Had a conversation with a girl friend yesterday and she really put into perspective a lot about often times we won't know if we're ready until God requires us to be ready. Similar to parenthood, no matter how many classes we take, books we read or advice we receive we can't apply all the knowledge and guides until we become a parent.
“Most people who contemplate marriage wrestle with the question of whether they’re ready. How much do you wait and seriously consider the weight of the decision to get married? When should you hold back and work on yourself for a while? Is any hesitation you feel about marriage a result of wanting to make sure you’ll be a healthy spouse? Or is it just selfishness and unwillingness to take responsibility? Is it both?
At what point do you stop over-thinking things, determine you’re making a good decision and make a jump?
You can never be fully ready for marriage because it’s impossible to be fully ready for marriage. Nothing can fully prepare you for losing part of yourself while making another person’s life your own. No amount of wise counsel or books or study guides can make you truly understand what it’s like to have and hold another soul, day in and day out—for life.
Marriage is much more a training zone for personal holiness than an award gala for personal perfection. Sometimes, the very things we think we need to have together before marriage can’t happen without it.
You should be asking whether you’d glorify Him better in your singleness or in marriage. If you’ve looked honestly at your life, determined with wise counsel that you’re a responsible and spiritually growing adult and can feel in your heart that you would serve God’s Kingdom better with marriage, you’re ready!” - JARED LAFITTE
I am thankful for all the love, knowledge, support and prayer while I've been deciphering this all out with God. It's encouraged me to look deeper into what God's will is for Rylan and I. Had a conversation with a girl friend yesterday and she really put into perspective a lot about often times we won't know if we're ready until God requires us to be ready. Similar to parenthood, no matter how many classes we take, books we read or advice we receive we can't apply all the knowledge and guides until we become a parent.
“Most people who contemplate marriage wrestle with the question of whether they’re ready. How much do you wait and seriously consider the weight of the decision to get married? When should you hold back and work on yourself for a while? Is any hesitation you feel about marriage a result of wanting to make sure you’ll be a healthy spouse? Or is it just selfishness and unwillingness to take responsibility? Is it both?
At what point do you stop over-thinking things, determine you’re making a good decision and make a jump?
You can never be fully ready for marriage because it’s impossible to be fully ready for marriage. Nothing can fully prepare you for losing part of yourself while making another person’s life your own. No amount of wise counsel or books or study guides can make you truly understand what it’s like to have and hold another soul, day in and day out—for life.
Marriage is much more a training zone for personal holiness than an award gala for personal perfection. Sometimes, the very things we think we need to have together before marriage can’t happen without it.
You should be asking whether you’d glorify Him better in your singleness or in marriage. If you’ve looked honestly at your life, determined with wise counsel that you’re a responsible and spiritually growing adult and can feel in your heart that you would serve God’s Kingdom better with marriage, you’re ready!” - JARED LAFITTE
